This session will give you a simple formula you can use to write your own affirmations. When you use “I am grateful” statements and focus on what you do want, you’ll train your brain to notice the positive parts of your life.
When to Use
You Are Experiencing:
Negative thoughts on a regular basis
Overwhem or anxiety about your life
Confusion over how to be positive
Uncertainty about using affirmations
You Want To:
Change your automatic thoughts
Increase the calm and peace you feel
Train your brain to think how you want
Become skilled in using affirmations
Affirmation for this Session:
I easily create affirmations that support me in creating a life I love.
For Repeat Visits:
Clearing exercise begins at 5:33
Carol: Think of something in your life right now that’s stressing you that, you know, you just wish it were different. Got something?
Carol: Okay, I do too. So how do you think about that most likely in terms of what is? What is happening? Which is often not so positive. So share what yours is.
Anne: I tend to get anxious when I’m either running late or have a lot to do that day. And I feel like I’m just…I get nervous right here.
Carol: And then you start to think thoughts then that can contribute to that feeling like…
Anne: “Oh, I’m running late.” “I have got so much to do today.”
Carol: “I’m overwhelmed.”
Anne: Yeah. “My house is such a mess.” And then always little things can have, like, start to pile up and add to the anxiety I’m already experiencing.
Carol: Yeah, and I notice each one of those thoughts starts with “I am.” Now, this is not a new information for most of you, but I’m still amazed how many people don’t use this simple practice of changing their thoughts into an affirmative mind, from a negative mind to an affirmative mind because, in that state of the negative, it actually adds more chemicals into your brain that stress you out even more.
They’ve studied this. Science has shown that positive thinking changes your brain chemistry. And it changes your energy which creates a different outcome because as you offer that vibration to your experience, you will manifest what you don’t want. And so the simple act of changing your thought will change the experience or allow you to be sustained through something that maybe you can’t control. Maybe it’s a person in your life that their choices are stressing you. Maybe it’s a health condition that you just have to see yourself through it. And so there, in your case, what could you be saying instead of, “I’m running late… I’m getting nervous”?
Anne: “Everything flows so beautifully.” “I’m grateful I have enough time to do everything that I have committed to today.”
Carol: “I’m amazed that time supports me.”
Anne: Yes. “I feel like at ease as I move through the different activities I have for this day.”
Carol: See, you’re in that closed energy state when you’re in the negative frantic energy and you’re shifting it. The affirmation is just designed to open you up. So wording can be variable. It’s just what supports you. Let’s take something like your health that maybe you’re in the process of a health challenge or a condition to say, “I’m given the strength to see this through. I’m buoyed up each day. I’m grateful for the patients that I’m blessed with.”
Anne: “My body knows how to heal.”
Carol: Yeah. See, those are all statements that don’t necessarily determine an outcome. They sustain you in the experience. So there’s affirmations that really declare outcomes, “I am experiencing…”
Anne: “I am healing tomorrow.”
Carol: Yeah, that’s right. Well, and that very well could be possible if you believed it big enough. Most of us don’t believe that big enough. And we’re supposed to go through a certain lesson. There’s the lesson side of this. We’re meant to learn what we learned through the journey. Now, I learned affirmations way back in the early 90s. I had no idea that my really stressed out, really depressed life was really being influenced by what was going on in here. One of the first books I read in the early 90s is Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life.” Definitely, Louise, is the pioneer of bringing affirmations and the practice of positive thinking and the power of it to the mainstream, yeah. I did something true to my nature. When I go in, I go all in. And so what did I do once I had read that book?
Anne: Well, how old was I? Like, 10? Maybe 12?
Carol: Yeah, probably.
Anne: So we came home one day and there’s colored construction paper everywhere in the house with statements on the cupboards, in the kitchen, in your room, wherever you were. You probably had some in your car.
Carol: Many places I rest. I had them taped. They were all over the house. I actually wish I had taken a picture of that.
Anne: I have a very clear mental image.
Carol: They were all over.
Anne: Because we would take them down. Our friends came over, like…
Carol: Like, “Leave them up.” Who gets the benefit of this, huh?
Anne: I have looked over my journals from when I was at that age and I wrote, “My mom and dad started this,” and I would write affirmations in my journal.
Carol: Since you were 10. I trained you to think this way, see?
Anne: You did, yeah. And it’s a muscle. Your brain is a muscle, and it requires practice because there have been times where I, you know, it’s just like any exercise. If you stop running and then you start running again, you’re gonna need a little bit more effort.
Carol: Yeah, and you’re gonna hit different life experiences where you get to…you may know this really well in one area of your life and then, all of a sudden, bam, you get hit with a new experience and you’re, like, taken out by it. You’re like, “Whoa, I gotta bring that same practice into this space.” And where in your life, right now, is this asking to be practiced because, pretty sure, there is some piece of your life that you can bring this practice to even though you may be good at it over here, there is a…We’re always gonna have challenges. That’s just how life works. And so these are opportunities to apply these tools in different, new experiences.
Anne: So you said you had a recipe for creating a perfect, wonderful affirmation. Share your recipe.
Carol: Well, everyone always knows what they don’t want. First off, I always say, “What don’t you want?”
Carol: All right. Yeah, so write that down.
Carol: Now, flip that to what you do want. Let’s just take something general, “I don’t want to be tired and stressed out.” You know, here’s the mistake. If you say, “I am not tired and stressed out,” what are you still focused on? Tired and stressed out.
Anne: Tired and stressed out. So that is the one rule is you are creating an affirmative and not put the not in there.
Carol: Yeah. What is the opposite of tired? If you’re not tired and stressed out, what would you be? What would you be?
Anne: You would be invigorated and…
Carol: Healthy. Yeah, have energy to do what I wanna do. I would feel good.
Anne: And, you know, I find it interesting that, like, we can sum up how we don’t wanna feel in, like, one simple statement, “Oh, I’m tired and stressed out,” and then the affirmative gives us this wonderful list of all of these beautiful adjectives. We can keep going and going, you know? And I think that’s just… How many different ways can you say what you want? Because then, you can kinda play that game of just how long can the list get, how many cupboards can you cover.
Carol: That’s right. Have a family affirmation night. You could actually do that. And, say, “Everyone write their affirmations for the week. Let’s post it up. And let’s see how many…you know, let’s now watch how many of these come to practice.” And so another key is to use the “I am grateful” as your lead statement rather…add the grateful word rather than just “I am”. “I am grateful I’m feeling energized and alive. I am balanced.”
Anne: “I am grateful money always supports me.” “I am grateful I feel at peace as I move throughout my day.”
Carol: The recipe is what don’t you want.
Anne: And then flip it into an “I am” statement like “I am grateful for something.”
Carol: Correct. Ask yourself, “Well, if that wasn’t happening, what would I be experiencing instead? What would that feel like? What would it sound like?” Because if you now add this as a stressful activity.
Anne: That’s right.
Carol: Affirmations are easy.
Anne: So I had an experience with this and.I exercised my brain muscles really strongly for a full week, and I focused on positive speak. I wasn’t gonna say anything negative. I was going to see the flip side of it. At the end of the week, I looked back and I said, “Well, that was easy.” Because, like, nothing bad happened. And I thought, “Well, I can think of some challenges actually that happened.” But I chose not to focus on them. That would have exaggerated their struggle in my life. And by minimizing that, by focusing on what was good or what could be, by the end of the week, it was amazing to see that week really flowed nicely. And it was because I was thinking in positive affirmations, and I was speaking that way as well.
Carol: I’ve produced an audio for each of the 4 Types with specific affirmations to help train your brain true to your Energy Type. You can play those.
Anne: That’s what I love, yeah.
Carol: And they’re very specific about your Type of energy, how you think and how your mind works.
Anne: And as you listen to those on a regular basis, it really becomes a part of you. And then when you’re in that challenging situation, you have that toolbox of affirmations to support you.
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